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When to Forgive

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Forgiveness is love. I have grappled with the notion of forgiveness over the past few years. I grew up in a very chaotic and dysfunctional household. There were drugs, abuse, hurtful words, stealing and backstabbing. So when I finally became an adult and decided to move out of my home with my parents I was bitter. I was angry at what happened to me, I was pissed at how my parents treated me. I was annoyed that no one reached out to help me; I felt isolated, rejected and misled. I didn’t believe in love and I for sure as hell didn’t believe in forgiving the people who were supposed to be my protectors. No, I would never forgive them.

And so I went about my life holding on to that hate and anger. And I spent a lot of time in therapy and I spent a little bit of time on medication. I got married then divorced a few short years later. I had to drop out of school. I was broke. I was miserable and the best I could do to help me feel better was to point the finger and blame. (Clearly at this point in my life I didn’t understand that I had the power to stop all of this nonsense by changing my mindset). 

Then the craziest thing happened. I started to pray. I prayed because, as I sat in a relative’s home feeling like a total waste of a person, I knew that I was meant to be and have more. I knew it in my gut. Do you know what God told me? “Release your parents, you were never the reason for the negative, you were always the cure”. There it was loud and clear. FORGIVE DAMMIT! But I wasn’t ready just yet. I had to reach for a better vibration within myself first. 

After 5 years of living a life of blame, I recently forgave them. I let it all go and since then life has been peaches and sweet tea. Delicious. I needed to be ready to forgive and the only way you can do that is to truly accept that You can run from your problems but you will take yourself with you

Oh yes my loves, forgiveness is not about what the other person does or says, it is all about you. When you offer the vibration of anger and blame, by allowing your thoughts to focus on another person’s flaws and sins, you will stay stuck and be unable to flourish. Its all about you. When you are able to start to see the good within everyone, when you are able to allow the Universe to send you the love you seek by releasing fear and anger, then you are ready to forgive. Forgiveness is not about patting someone on the back and saying, “Hey its okay that you hurt me and I’m OK with you doing it again”. No. Forgiveness is about you looking into their soul and saying, ” I know you don’t always act like it and that sucks but I can see the Divine in you and I love that part of you.”

It takes time and you should allow yourself to feel what you need to feel but then at some point you have to look at your situation and say to yourself, “Am I where I want to be? Am I allowing as much love as possible into my life? Can I see the love and truth within every person who I think has wronged me?” Once you’re ready to answer those questions honestly, then you are ready to forgive.

Blessings my loves.

Your Most Important Relationship

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Your most important relationship is the one you have with your Inner Being. This is the part of you that is still very much connected to your past life wisdom and your Source energy. It is that part of you that feels like intuition or a voice of reasoning from deep within. It is your Eternal part. This is why your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship. Here is the truth: 

You cannot give love to this world if you have not given it to yourself first

This isn’t news to some of us and you may have heard it plenty of times before. It is our ultimate truth while we are here in this physical experience. You and I came to love. And the best way to spread love and to use love to uplift each other and bring peace and joy to our relationships is to love who we are first. There is no other way. 

How can you not love who you are? You are truly an extension of God. You are whole, light and perfect. You are love energy having a physical, human experience. Having a relationship with yourself is something to cherish and celebrate. 

This week, take time for you. Use meditation to tap into your Holy Essence and love it. Learn to quiet your mind so you can hear your Soul, so you can hear God. Do something kind for yourself. Open your heart to loving yourself first and joy is sure to follow. 

Prayer of the week:

Source, make me a vessel of love. I am open to learning to love myself first. I am open to loving all others second. Show me how to love no matter what. I release my fears to you and open my heart to you. Thank you for your wisdom and guidance. Amen.

Tell A Different Story for A Different Result

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A friend of mine was upset today because she felt that every time things start to go her way something happens that leaves her feeling helpless, lonely, dejected and abused. I’ve suggested that she work on her boundaries but today something she said really opened me to understand what she really needed on a deeper level. She needed to hear this:

“Tell a different story. Get excited about all of the things that will go right in your future.”

The Law of Attraction will bring you what you focus on.

Are you focusing on all the ways that people have flaked out on you or left you hanging when you needed them the most? Well my love, that is exactly what you will continue to get. How about you try to focus on the amazing new friends that you want in your life. Really get creative. Imagine how fun it will be to connect on many levels. Imagine how open and willing they will be to helping you when you’re down on your luck. Picture them keeping every appointment with you. How are you feeling after that little exercise?

Let’s try work. Are you always focused on the ways that your job leaves you feeling drained, used, abused, lifeless, and angry? Are you constantly complaining about your boss or your co-workers? You’re going to continue to get what you focus on. I can guarantee you that you will continue to feel those same feelings day in and day out if you keep that attitude up. Try this instead:

“My co-workers may be acting out from their ego and not their true loving self. And besides, how they act is their own decision. From now on I’m not going to take it personally. I see myself moving through my work day with ease. Now that I’m not internalizing everyone else’s problems I can interact with them from a true place of freedom. We’re all human anyway. I happen to actually love John’s smile and Sandra is very smart. My team is comprised of really great people. Maybe they’re feeling as tired or hurt or angry as I am.  And maybe this isn’t the job I’m meant to have, but it doesn’t have to be forever. I can start making the changes I need to for myself in order to get out.”

Say what you need to say to put a smile on your face as you’re thinking about it. That’s all you need to know to start manifesting the new path that you wish you were on. And while you’re at, stop focusing on the fact that you’re NOT on the path of your dreams. Focus on how cool it will feel when you realize that you are right where you need to be.

Today’s Meditaiton: “Breathing in I am willing and open to creating a life of joy for myself. Breathing out I release my old story. Breathing in I am happy and positive, breathing out I release negativity.”

Do this for as long as feels comfortable to you. All you need is two minutes to shift your point of attraction and if you do this meditation daily change will manifest itself for you in amazing ways. Open to the love and joy you seek.

With Love,

Kimberly

If you are interested in a free one-on-one spiritual guidance consultation or if you have questions please email me at kimlorrainne@gmail.com

How A Stranger Helped Me Love Myself

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I believe that  deep within every human being is an essence of pure, perfect, love. We have many names for this: Soul, Holy Spirit, Source Energy, God, Inner Guide. Whatever you want to call it, this ball of radiant love is within us at all times, even in our lowest moments, in our most desperate moments, in our darkest hours. There is love present and available at all times. Take a moment to really let that sink in. You have all of the love that you could ever need and want nestled within your heart at this very moment. This is a life changing realization my loves.

When I began my journey to reconnect with the love within, I struggled. I had a hard time believing that the little light of mine was even still lit. I was so disconnected that I saw myself as empty inside, extinguished. My spiritual support team of friends, mentors, family, and an amazing cognitive-behavioral therapist would all tell me that I “had it”. And I couldn’t see it, I couldn’t feel it. I didn’t believe them and there were many times when I called them on their bull-shit. 

But then, a shift began to happen. My point of attraction pivoted and love started to manifest itself in some incredible ways. . You see, I was so focused on seeking love within myself and so focused on seeing the good in my own heart that, overtime, love and goodness just sort of happened. I got the apartment I so desperately wanted, I found ways to connect with my family which opened me to compassion, I started to ask the toxic people in my life to kindly exit.  It was like moving into a backbend. My heart opened and love poured in and even out. My aha moment came when I was chatting with a stranger on the subway and she told me that I was a beautiful girl, inside and out. Hold the phone!  Here was a person who I made a genuine connection with, I was vulnerable and I dared greatly and she saw the light within. And in that instant I felt pretty alive and lit up on the inside. My soul had reawakened. 

Since I reignited the flame within myself I’ve found it very easy to fall in love with people. I fell in love with the little girl who, to spite her mother, licked her hands after touching a pole on the subway. I fell in love with the homeless man who just wanted a Big Mac, I fell in love with the man playing piano in Grand Central. I could go on and on. Everyday I seek out and find more people to love.

My point is this: If you want to see life and people through the eyes of God, see yourself that way first. Everything is nurtured and can grow with love. You can change your life, you can ignite change in others, you can even help someone to recognize their light and inspire them to serve others. Love can put into motion a string of events that can set you up for greatness. Its powerful stuff.

I encourage you to try this little exercise:  Everyday for the next week take 5 minutes out of your day to think about all of the love you presently have in your life. Really allow yourself to get swept up in the good, warm feelings. Think about your love for your family, your neighborhood, your food, your brain. I promise that this very simple exercise will change your perception and shift your point of attraction. Amazing things will begin to happen. 

 

If you want help putting together a spiritual support team, finding love within, reaching your goals or learning how to meditate email me at kimlorrainne@gmail.com

 

With Love,

 

Kimberly Lorrainne